about me

I’ve always been a reader, a studier and a ponderer.

I’m not a heavyweight intellectual, a trained philosopher or a theologian, but I get joy from learning and passing along what I’ve learned, especially when it draws me closer to God and helps others do the same.

A characteristic that has marked my life since I was a kid — when I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior — has been the desire to make Jesus known to the world. I want people to understand God’s greatness, Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross for our sins, and the reality that he wants a relationship with us.

Strangely enough, this little evangelical Christian girl grew up to marry an atheist.

I could tell you that how I got there is a long story, but it’s pretty simple. It boils down to this:

I knew that being “unequally yoked” wasn’t the Lord’s best plan for me, but I was in love with Bruce and I ignored Paul’s admonition in 2 Corinthians 6.

There are reasons the Bible warns against believers marrying unbelievers.

As I write this in 2019, Bruce and I have been married 21 years. I love him to pieces (and he loves me), but marriage to an atheist hasn’t been easy.

I’m in the middle of writing a book about this (called “The Atheist’s Wife”), and I’ll share stories on the blog about our life together, but the main focus here at SuzyOakley.com will be on how Christians can share their faith with unbelievers.

I recently started studying Christian apologetics, and I’m eager to share the things I’m learning.

If you’re interested in apologetics and enjoy listening to podcasts, here’s a good one to get you started. The host of The Alisa Childers Podcast takes the approach I want to take on this website: thoughtful and respectful to others, even when we disagree.

While you’re on Alisa’s site, hit the Home button and check out her introductory video or her popular posts; she has written some really great posts that have taught me so much. She’s also writing a book about progressive Christianity, and I’ll be sure to share a review once it’s published. I hadn’t even heard the term “progressive Christianity” until I started following her, and now it’s one of the things I try to discern about others who say they are Christian.

I’ll be sharing more on progressive Christianity as I learn more, because it’s becoming more and more pervasive in our churches as our culture becomes more and more egocentric — more about individuality than about what is good for society at large (or about what God would have for us to believe and do).

I plan to publish a resource page with books, podcasts and websites that will help you share your faith and learn about apologetics, if you’re interested in that. Meanwhile, take a look around SuzyOakley.com and post a comment or two.

Subscribers to SuzyOakley.com get extra goodies that I don’t always post on the blog, so be sure to provide your name and email address for updates straight to your inbox. If you subscribe, you’ll get access to a PDF: “13 Tips for Having a Conversation with Someone Who’s Different.” The tip sheet includes plenty of Scripture references, but the advice can be applied to conversations of any sort — not just the faith-sharing kind. In other words, atheists can benefit from the tips, too. 🙂

Feel free to share what you find here with others you believe may benefit. Let’s make this a community where we can come and have conversations — where we lift each other up, challenge one another and respect each other, even when we disagree.

If you have questions or suggestions for the site, contact me here.

I’m so glad you stopped by. I hope you’ll stick around. 🙂





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